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How to learn positive thinking

 

 

 

 

A guidebook by Julia Nastasi

 

 

 

 

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© Julia Nastasi Nastasi

 

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1st edition 26.07.2013 German edition ISBN: 978-1492210641

2nd edition 01.06.2014 English edition ISBN: 978-1499754803

 

 

 

 

 

Introduction - what is positive thinking?

 

Talking about positive thinking, we mean real positive thinking by itself. Once you have reached the status of real positive thinking, you will see the good about a situation on your own terms. You have then put your focus on the pleasant things in your life.

 

In contrast we also know what we call »pretended positive thinking«. It uses the technique of »playing act«. This may be one stage on your way to real positive thinking or else the biggest mistake ever. You can find out if you are on the wrong path if you never leave this stage and you do not work on yourself sincerely.

 

Positive thinking is the implementation of the well-known Eric Idle song »Always Look on the Bright Side of Life«. It means: However your life turns out to be - always look on the brighter side.

»Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you.« That is an African word. It describes precisely what you are doing if you think positively. It doesn’t mean that you simply ignore negative things. But we will come back to that later. It means to turn your face to the sun. It’s the only way to feel its warmth, its energy.

 

Accept negative feelings (don’t use a smilie sticker)

 

In our coachings we often hear one question if we talk about positive thinking: »What if a person dies - do I still have to think positively?« And that’s the point I have already mentioned in the previous chapter: There is no good on your way to positive thinking in ignoring that there might be sad, bad or simply negative things. In a moment like that you should accept your negative feelings. Even grief needs a place in life.

 

It is a fact: Accepting your negative feelings and not putting them aside will bring you back to your positive thoughts even quicker. Because you then come to terms with what you have just experienced and after that, you will really feel okay again.

 

For me positive thinking has a lot to do with music and so here we go with another quote from a song:

»And the soul, afraid of dying

That never learns to live.«

This to me is the quintessence of the perfect way of handling negative situations.

 

I was sitting in a seminar the other day and the trainer explained in a perfect way what happens if you put all of your negative feelings and thoughts aside and do not accept them at all. She said, if we only think positively in a flat-rate kind of way without even thinking about it, this is like putting a smilie sticker on all the bad things and saying »Everything’s gonna be alright.« But of course that doesn’t make anything better. Of course, it will catch up with you and in the end you will need to deal with many situations at a time. Then you will be wondering why one negative situation hits you so hard. But then it is that big lot of situations in which you have put things aside, not worked them out to the end. They are popping up again and again and make it even harder from time to time.

 

Now you already understand what I am saying: If something happens that you don’t like, something sad or you’re getting mad or you’re disappointed - no matter what negative feeling will come up - you should look at it, even feel it and accept the emotions that come up.

I already hear the question that might come up: »How long should I accept, when is it enough of acceptance?« There is only one answer: It takes as long as it takes. It depends on how strongly it affects you. It depends on your additional circumstances: Are you having stress on your job, a breakup or anything else that influences you? Then maybe that makes accepting harder. Do you accept easily? Then it might end soon.

 

You see: It takes as long as it takes. That is the only right answer. You will feel it: Is it over already? Are you wallowing in what has just happened, in your negative feelings? Is it real or is it only an excuse why you cannot think positively at all? Be true to yourself, because you are probably the only person you owe an explanation.

 

 

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Tag der Veröffentlichung: 02.06.2014
ISBN: 978-3-7368-1716-6

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