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By Santosh Jha

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Table of Contents

Welcome Note

The Backdrop

First Thing First

The Genesis Of Trouble

Understand The Drives Of Humanity

Mechanism Of Sexuality

Aesthetics Of Life-Living Purpose

Accept My Gratitude

About The Author

Other Titles By The Author

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Welcome Note

Hello my dear young friend! It has now been established; every normal healthy kid born is the veritable genius of the universe, as it has been designed this way. However, it is also said, ‘together, we all and this crazy contemporary culture ensure that this genius becomes an absolute stupid in next 25 years’!

Somehow, the genius of innocence in young, which the culture labels as ‘sweet stupid’, is in incessant pressure by popular cultural benchmarks of success and self-worth, to become stupidly successful. And, when success comes, it comes with such huge costs of hypocrisy and conflicts that the society starts complaining. You can ask, ‘why cannot we remain, what we are, the born genius and a successful stupid!

I am perfectly sure, I am talking to a genius young friend, who has it all to understand everything that is there to be understood for a ‘truly successful’ life and living, which is undoubtedly the most amazing realism for all of us.

I am only too happy to say that this I intend to be a hearty and open talk between you, a young mind and me. The entire exercise is aimed at being in confabulation with young ones, with whom I wish to share something, which is such a powerful impact on our lives. Yes, we are talking about youth issues of sexual synergies, sensual symmetries & sanity and mystically beautiful aesthetics and purpose of life. Essentially, the talk is addressed to you, my amazingly talented young friend; however, if a parent happens to read it, I have a humble and compassionate appeal that you should place yourself in a consciousness of a young mind. This shall make better sense of this exercise.

At the very outset, I wish to say a small thing to you. I am sure; you must have realized that the world we live is what it is, neither good nor bad. It is somehow neutral and objective. It is people, the individual as you and we, who are the ‘Theatre’ of all troubles as well as happiness.

It is in our individualistic consciousness and perception that we accept something as ‘trouble’ and others as ‘happiness’. This leads us to a fact that whatever we are provided with, inside us or outside in the society; are essentially neutral. It is our subjective and personal positioning with these endowments, which make us accept them as either ‘treasure’ or ‘trouble’.

The same energy, which runs a car for us, can cause major fire, devastating everything. The life we have, the senses and its complex interplay we witness in our lives, are such beautifully neutral and objective energies. Whether we wish to use this energy for running the ‘car of our lives’ or burning our lives, is purely in the hands of an individual – you and we.

That is why; my dear young friend; I wish to tell you that in all the talks we are having, we shall focus on things and ideas, which are inside us and internal to our perceptions. The external factors shall always be there as they are for everyone. However, what impact and effect they have on us and our lives are what we shall allow them to have on us, as we shall have a perfect understanding of things and ideas within us. On this premise, we shall lead our talks. I sincerely hope, together we arrive, where we wish to!

I affectionately request you to kindly accept me as your true friend. A friend is not one who tells you what is right and what is wrong. It is one, who is just an effective “catalyst”, facilitating you a series of learning and unlearning, by optimizing painful processes of ‘option-building’ of life-living possibilities.

That is why, at the very start, I humbly request you to be my friend and accept this all as one long conversation between friends. Kindly, accept this not as a book but a ‘confabulation’ between friends. This, I am confident, shall engender smoothness of navigation and fruition of the entire exercise.

I need to say, we all live in a complex and conflicted world where almost everything is in for skepticism. It would be even better if you use this energy of skepticism and doubt all that we shall talk here. However, you should use your own resources to re-check their authenticity, utility and fruition. One must not ‘reject’ anything out rightly or show them a close door. Doubt them, re-check them, correct them if you find them wrong but never ‘reject’ them. Being wise and intelligent is an artistry, which involves ‘acceptance and then assimilation’. The genius you are, shall always process everything deep within, before making a decision on its utility or futility.

I chat up with you to share with you whatever is part of my consciousness. All wisdoms say, ‘what stays with you is what sinks in’. Wisdom is what we internalize. I share with you whatever I have internalized in my life. At the age of 46, I can say with innocence that getting old is such a beautiful and satisfying experience. Getting old has probably pushed ‘me’ close to the ‘eligibility’ of perhaps beginning to understand as what essentially is there to be understood! I feel truly blessed to share my consciousness with you.

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The Backdrop

As we talked earlier, there are situations and scenarios in a particular stage of time in our society and culture, which are neutral and objective. However, these situations may work out to be ‘trouble’ for some people, even while, the same circumstances shall dole out huge benefits to others. Being young, probably a teenager, you are seemingly on the ‘wrong side’ of a situation in society and popular culture. The simple reason is – you have almost negligible say on the state of affairs around you, even when, you are exposed to them in a most impacting ways.

It is only natural that as a young person, you have a precarious and unsettled relationship with the cultural environment around you, landing you in unimaginable positions of corresponding unsettled behavior-action possibilities. This qualifies you as the ‘trouble’ of the popular culture, as you are still not in good terms with all, which the popular culture and societal environment wants you to be in.

Globally, since ages, the young people have been labeled as ‘troubles’ unto themselves, even while the sad reality is, the ‘trouble’ is there in the ‘adjustment’ of a ‘new entrant’ of society, into a popular but ever changing ‘belief system’ and ‘behavior-action-benchmarks’, which is culturally accepted as ‘appropriate’. You, as a growing up person has to understand very clearly the ‘core’ area of your trouble with this ‘appropriate-benchmarks’ and also, why you are often labeled by your parents and society in general as ‘trouble’ vis-à-vis these benchmarking requirements. We shall talk about it in detail, so that you have the correct and fruitful diagnosis and understanding of the ‘genesis and genetics of the trouble’.

The contemporary concerns of society and culture with you as a youth are broadly in three areas – alcoholism & drugs, sexual sanity and irritable aggression. In all developed societies and culture, especially in western societies, there is a consensus that these issues need to be taken up very seriously as top youth troubles and there must be a mechanism in place to educate the youth about them. However, there is still a debate on what should be the ideal mechanism. Naturally, as they all experiment with different mechanisms, you as a youth shall be in more trouble, as what needs to be accepted and what not!

As it has been a practice, there shall always be designs and mechanisms, which the society shall devise for you and experiment them on you, hoping for them to be successful in abetting the trouble. They come to you as ‘shoulds’, a prescription or as ‘informed choices’, which you shall be expected to make. The trouble is, you shall still be not sure, whether these ‘shoulds’ or informed choices are actually wisdom or troubles itself! There is reason for such thoughts. We shall talk about it later.

The fact remains that you shall always doubt anything, which is either prescribed to you as ‘you should do it’ or dished out to you as ‘information’ to make ‘right choices’. Both ways, the idea is prescriptive, comes as ‘expectations’ that you must do them. However, you shall seldom accept them as, firstly; you have doubts over their utility. Secondly, it is always easy for you to decipher that all these ‘expectations’ from you, have perceptible elements of ‘hypocrisy’ and ‘conflicts of interests’. You shall always ask loads of questions about their utility and purpose on you and shall seldom get answers as, most such expectations are actually huge hypocrisy.

It does not take a genius to see through it. You see that you are asked to keep away from alcohol and drugs, whereas, everywhere in society and popular culture, people young and old are deep down into it. You are asked to keep away from sex but everywhere, everyone seems to be indulging in it and in all spheres of life around you, all things have sexual overtones to it! You are told to be calm and cool in a societal space, where gun culture and rage is calamitously growing. This hypocrisy is so open and clearly visible all around that it is impossible for you to accept the prescriptions against their utility as one huge futility!

There is an alternative mechanism too, which is also being practiced and prescribed. This method understands and accepts that what is being told to the youngsters not to do, they cannot accept it as they see almost everyone else doing it. This alternative mode accepts the hypocrisy. That is why; this mechanism says, ‘Do it but avoid accidents. Get informed about possibilities of mishaps and stand geared up to do it safely’. Naturally, the onus of sanity and safety is on you.

However, there still remains this element of hypocrisy in it. The same people who label you as ‘troubled teens’ or ‘wayward youth’, are leaving the onus of practice of ‘appropriate’ on you. If I am troubled and my trouble emanates out of my failure to discern between ‘right and wrong’, how can I be left to be the ‘judge’ of my own wellness? The belief is, ‘you do it right, when you have the right information and facts’. This is one huge hypocritical proposition. Why?

I am saying this to you with perfect belief that it is something, which you can understand and decipher on your own, whether I say it right or not. The idea that if you are equipped with all right facts about a possible trouble, you shall be judging right and keep away from the ‘wrongs’ of the thing. That is why, they tell you how sex and drugs at your age can be devastating on your personality growth, how it can land you with dreaded diseases and other related troubles. The fact is, you listen to and accept all these ‘right facts’. Then again, you see that loads of grownups, educated ones and mature people around you are doing the same ‘wrong’ things and mistakes. You shall naturally question, “I am very young and naïve but all these people are grown ups and mature. They must have knowledge about what they are making us understand. Why then they still indulge in all these wrongs and inappropriate?” You cannot have answer, as the answer shall be again full of hypocrisy.

So, is that there is no solution? No, there is a solution. The solution is in knowledge of objective and neutral realities. The solution is in ‘holism’ and not in ‘parts’. The trouble of all mechanisms, which are offered to you as ‘educational or prescriptive’ tools for eliciting ‘appropriate’ action-behavior benchmarks from you is; they are all only ‘part’ facts and knowledge. You are shown only ‘half picture’ of life-living realism as it is believed, you either cannot understand the ‘full picture’ or it shall be dangerous or inappropriate to give you the whole picture.

If science says, a kid is born as the genius of the universe, you can simply ask, why you are not wise and good enough to see and understand the whole picture! Your question is not outlandish. The other thing is; can some knowledge be labeled as ‘inappropriate’ for someone? It is said, you as a youngster are ‘impressionable’ minds and there has to be some ‘discretion’ in what should be handed over to you, at this tender and vulnerable age.

The bizarre but beautifully amazing fact is – at one hand, you are being offered some knowledge and information, which in all societies across the globe consider as ‘adult’ stuff, not amenable for the young impressionable minds. On the other, there is a huge debate on what type of information is ‘right and appropriate’ for you to get. The most bizarre fact remains that in a liberal and open society and culture you live, there is almost nothing, which does not touch your life and perception. The all-invasive media, the pop culture leaves nothing as ‘sacrosanct and hidden’. The fact is – you get all information, the difference can be, from which source you get it. Now, the debate can be, which source is ‘appropriate’!

The simple idea as a solution is, what I sincerely believe, you can very well understand, as you are my genius friend. Your genius is in something, which is labeled as ‘trouble’. This hypocrisy is one big thing, which keeps you away from your own wellness. The genius in you is your natural, intrinsic and highly profitable ‘inquisitiveness’. You have questions and all your questions are valid and right as they emanate out of your innate mechanism. This is your brilliant energy of personal growth and evolution as the new entrant in the society and culture.

As we have talked earlier, this world around us is very objective and neutral. The good or bad, the right or wrong is what plays inside the theatre of individual body-mind mechanism. When you get to know of this entire mechanism and see the whole picture of life and living realisms and how one’s own body-mind consciousness lands itself either on right or wrong side of it, you shall become the ‘masters of the mechanism’ and not the ‘puppets of mechanism’.

We are friends now and we shall talk about all these things like true friends and shall together arrive at the complete picture of life-living realisms. The issue at hand – the sanity and aesthetics of life-living choices and purpose shall automatically be addressed, as we go through the larger picture. You just have to be receptive and open to ideas.

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First Thing First

Globally, youth is considered an unsettled and problematic period in a person’s life. As you are in this same age of unsettled energy, you must first fully understand the mechanism of this trouble and unsettled energy. If you are labeled as ‘troubled’, you have all the rights to know, what the reason behind this nomenclature is. This of course is the first primary step in the process of seeing and understanding the whole and larger picture.

It is not a rocket science or some hugely complicated idea, which you cannot understand. This is simple and innocent positioning of mind, which you can attain as this facility is something you are born with. All you need to do is understand the utility of the simple idea, we are about to talk. This shall solve more than half the problem associated with you being labeled as ‘trouble’.

You already know it that adolescence years are termed as time space movement from innocence to intelligence – from childhood to adulthood. This is the first thing you have to accept about yourself. You were in a beautiful and affectionate situation of a kid, where it was a ‘love-all’ position for you. You were innocent and this means, you knew almost nothing about the society and culture you are born in. There was actually no expectation from you as innocence, which is essentially a ‘knowing nothing’ stupidity, was precisely your virtue. Everyone loved this ‘small stupid’, which you were just a few years back but no more!

You had to grow and you just cannot wish to stop this to happen. Rather, you are just too happy to grow. As you start to grow, you cannot be left with your innocence. You have to learn and the most important learning is; what the society and culture of your surrounding has in it. Some of these learning shall be what you may like but most of the learning, you may not. The teenage is the formative years for all humans on the planet and in this time in the life, you are moving from ‘knowing nothing’ to the cherished position of ‘knowing all’. However, this is a long process and it shall take over a decade. You as a teenager are standing mid-way from both ends – the end of childhood, which you no more belong to and the other end of adulthood, where you have to reach but you have still not. You are in an ‘unsettled’ and ‘transitional’ space and that is why, unsettled is the tag or label, which should not offend you. Everyone goes through this phase.

It is only quite natural that you as a teenager are marked by crises of cognitive identities, individual benchmarks, social perceptions and role models. The crises and trouble emanate out of your unsettled ‘mid-positioning’. You are neither a kid, nor an adult. It is a mid-situation where, at times, you shall find yourself positioned more on the side of a kid and at other times, you shall be expected to behave as grown up.

This dualism shall be taxing for you. At times, you may wish to be more on the side of childhood, whereas the parents or others may demand you to be more in tune with your impending adulthood. Or, at times you would wish yourself to be reckoned as adult, when others would confine you to childhood limits. This surely shall be very unnerving for you. You have to accept that this pain of dualism is because of your mid-positioning, which shall pass away in time.

Youth are characterized by inquisitiveness, pepped up & restless energies, iconoclastic attitudes, experimentalism, non-conformist Epicureanism and gang behavior, etc. That is why, young world over are treated with caution and dread at times. They are perceived as people passing through the most turbulent time and space. This is altogether a negative image and perception of youth. You have to accept your precarious positioning in the journey of life and recognize, why this mid-positioning has so much negativity attached to it.

Let us have a positive perception and believe that youth are people looking out for their space in the crowd of grown up people and their established worldview. All of us have to accept it that it is not very easy task for the young. They need positive support from the grownups and the world they knock to enter. We also need all possible resources of the elders to understand and explore the world they get the feel of first time. As the youngsters get the first feel of all things, they react, and they react just because they have to, not because they are reactionary. Reacting is not bad at all! It is part of the process of getting to terms with new realities around in the ambient culture and environments. There is no need for grownups to be ‘reactive’!

As a youth, you have to see and understand one small thing. You are entering a world for the first time and as you do it, your best friend is something, which is within you. This is your natural inquisitiveness. However, be warned of the mood of this friend. As you feel the world around you, it is only natural that you shall ask too many questions. The questions are all genuine as they are natural to you. However, this world you have entered, already has a rule, custom and culture, which you have not made but still have to accept. There can be rules for asking questions and there can be customs of having answers for them. You may feel, you have questions and they need to be answered well. This may not sometimes be possible.

The simple thing to understand is, even if you do not get an answer or get an answer, which does not satisfy you, you cannot feel agitated or irritated about it. There is no need for it. You are the genius of the universe and you can very well understand this simple fact. You sure can feel a bit sad and unhappy. It is this aggression and out of place irritability, which is the trouble with you. You just have to understand this. Your label of a ‘trouble’ thing is not in your natural inquisitiveness, but in the approach to it. If you successfully weed out the aggression and impatient irritability out of your inquisitiveness, you are not a ‘trouble’ but a ‘treasure’. The simple fact is – you are always a treasure, as what makes you a treasure is your ‘internal’ and natural inquisitiveness. However, you turn into a trouble because of something, which you express ‘externally’.

My dear young friend, do kindly accept with open heart and mind that the issue of all synergies, symmetries and sanity of your personality, expected from you is something internally and naturally available to you. Your natural inquisitiveness has it all. It is only the external expression of ‘inappropriate’ aggression and impatient irritability, which disturbs your natural synergies, symmetries and sanity. Life’s aesthetics is in the poise and proportion of your innate consciousness within and this poise needs to be expressed in calm, cool and composed action-behavior. This wins everything for you. You lose only when you lose your poise posturing.

Only few years back, you were in the age of innocence and then, everyone pampered you and happily provided you almost everything you wished your way. However, the same people now expect you to be patient and accommodative, if you do not have your way every time. This is simply because, you have already left this place of innocence and now you are on way to a destination, where all desires and wishes have to be conditioned by social customs, cultural practices and law of the land, etc. Growing up means, you have to be ‘accommodative’, as you are now inseparable part of the society, which is a place where individualistic desires have to be adjusted and accommodated against collective well-being. Everyone has to do it.

The simple fact is, the trouble is not with your inquisitiveness or your non-acceptance of an answer as the right one. You always have the right to say, you differ and you do not accept it as the right answer. However, the trouble is with the way you accept a no for an answer. The aggression and heightened irritability is the trouble. Your non-accommodation with an innocuous ‘no’ is what labels you as ‘trouble’. It is not only with you. Anyone, even an adult, who is not well skilled with the social artistry of accommodation and peaceful coexistence has to be labeled as ‘trouble’ because, social system works on these golden principle of peaceful coexistence. We shall talk about it later.

It is somehow very unfortunate that when a young of a family shows up its inquisitiveness, the grownups have very little time to spare for the adolescents as we all live in a very complex and fast world. Even if they spare their time and attention, they are too prompt to disallow the inquisitive nature of young, which is usually full of instinctive logic and equalitarian appeals.

Still, the fact remains that, you as a new entrant into this world, have to be more aware and more accommodative about all the circumstances, which may not be in your favor. The simple reason for this is – first, you are a new entrant and second, you have to evolve and grow to later be in the position, where you shall create a better world for your own young ones. The more important reason is – you are still the true genius of the world, as you have still not been made a stupid, which usually people become when they grow up. That is why; you shall adjust more to be more in touch with better learning avenues. This is something, which shall benefit you hugely.

You are still new to this world, which has its own set of conflicts and hypocrisies. The world is what it is, neutral and objective. You are entering it for the first time. The hypocrisies and conflicts all wait for you and they shall be unleashed on you in a neutral way. You need to see and understand all these hypocrisies and conflicts. You are the genius and you can.

You shall see and understand; much to your initial discomfort that the real trouble is not usually with adolescent mind and teenage behaviors-actions. Rather, it is with the grown up world. The grownups live in a world, which has been constructed on the platform of life and living contradictions, manufactured and synthetic conflicts, unnatural premises and restrictive behaviors and actions. You shall grow up to see the negative side of our cultural evolution as humans.

Naturally, you as a young mind, which has not yet been exposed to it, will think instinctively and your mind would justify things you believe in, as the natural behavior would guide you. This would stand you in conflict with the rules and accepted norms of the grown up world. The grownups being in command of resources and authority tools, will disallow the young rationality. This in turn would confuse and conflict the youth, resulting in dysfunctional behavior pattern among them. This you have to guard against.

It seems very credible that the solution is not in negating youth instincts and rationality but in educating them about the world as it is and also about sharing their minds with appreciation and adult respect.

For example, a teenage boy sees his father doing something with full authority and social acceptance and so he would also demand to do it. However, he may not be allowed, as it may sometime be against prevalent law, social rules, cultural practices or family norms. However, it will be utterly wrong to discourage the desire of teenager and scold him or her for this. Rather the teens should be taken in confidence and told that he or she would also do it someday when he or she will fulfill a certain achievement in life as, nothing in life comes free and without frills.

The simple life philosophy is not to negate youth inquisitiveness and instincts rather educating them about various aspects of life and living that conditions decision-making and choices. Even if this involves hypocrisy and conflict, the young must be educated about it. That need to learn those aspects of life and living that evolves them in a positive way, inculcating a pride and respect in them, which is core component for their healthy and positive growth. Logic fills all empty spaces in mind and that is why; logic to anyone cannot be negated and denied.

You, as a youth need to understand and accept that there are some thoughts and ideas, which shall come to your mind, just because you are in a mid-situation of life. Every stage of life has its associated thought and emotional outcomes. As a teenager, you shall have the following thoughts and emotions, which you must understand and accept. They are –

1. What is happening to you may sound exclusive and novel to you but it is essentially common to all humans in their growth towards adulthood. You have just entered this world but this world you see is thousands of years old. All humans have common mechanism of body-mind consciousness and what you feel is something common to most in your age. The sense of novelty of idea or emotion is exciting to you but may not be same with all those, who have gone past it. The gap between you as a teenager and those grownups is imminent. Most conflicts of interest, which you have, shall automatically be resolved, if you see it this way.

2. Most of your troubles and issues as teenager are usually very normal and they are generally a passing phase, with very high prospects of you coming out of them as winners if you have the right information and objective assessment capability. That is why; you need to focus less on troubles and issues at hand and more on your inquisitive mind, which shall lead you to attain more information and knowledge, finally solving your problems.

3. You have just entered this vast world of knowledge and growth and that is why you feel confused and at loss. As you are gradually exposed to the worldview and existing knowledge of humanity, you shall find that already this world has answers to most of your queries and troubles. Then you shall feel assured and at peace. So, be patient and give yourself some precious time.

Let us understand all this with the help of a true story. It happened with someone very close to me and I am so happy to share it with you. This true story has all ingredients of teenage troubles and also has the idea, which we have talked so far.

As it is with all teenagers, this boy in our story had issues with the discipline he was always loaded with. He was 13 years old and had started to develop his own set of thoughts and emotions. Discipline as the greatest morality was not always acceptable to him as he saw it as a tool of smothering his natural inquisitiveness.

When he was in class six, he had once dared to speak his mind and his question, which he considered very valid and innocent, had landed him in deep trouble. His question related to something, which had become a routine in his school. There would be seven periods in weekdays in his school and in all periods, the teachers would assign homework. The homework of all seven periods became so cumbersome that he could not complete them even when he studied for three hours in the evening after playing cricket for one hour.

The next day, he would invariably be punished by teachers whose homework he could not complete. Someday, he would be lucky to complete homework of all seven periods but half of the days in the week, he would be punished in at least two periods for not completing the tasks. He would not be alone, as at least five-six others would be lined up for similar offences.

One day, he was about to be punished when he stepped back, withdrawing his hand away from the trajectory of the stick of his teacher and asked, was it right that he be burdened with homework in all seven periods? The question infuriated the teacher and he was not only beaten with stick but with slaps and fists.

The ordeal did not end here. He was produced before the school principal. The teacher complained to the principal that he had breached the discipline of the school by refusing to do his homework and then publically protesting against homework and punishment. The principal suddenly got serious. He told the teacher that if this boy remained in the school, it would set a wrong precedent for other students. His simple question was labeled by the principal as something like a mutiny.

He was beaten up hard but he did not say a word more. He however still felt what he had asked was a simple question and it was not even a protest, let alone a mutiny. The principal immediately passed the order to expel him from the school. Back home, nobody bothered to know his version of the story and he was scolded badly for being an undisciplined boy. The principal relented only after his father gave him in writing that he would behave properly in future.

Years after this incident, the same boy went back to his school in an ‘Old Boys Association Function’ and the principal, who had expelled him from the school was there. Both laughed at the incidents, which happened 20 years back. However, he asked the principal why he did not believe his words then and why he did not accept his version that he had just asked an innocent question and it was no rebellion.

The principal answered him, “I believed you and knew that what you had done was no rebellion or indiscipline. Your question was natural and innocent. Still I had to take the action, which I took because it was required for the smooth functioning of the school. Discipline is a notional thing. It is accepted only when it is taken as something indispensible, objective, nonflexible and unpardonable. If I allowed you the luxury of asking a question, it would dent the discipline mould and then it would be ineffective as a tool. There were a thousand students in the school and if everyone asked a question, discipline would have been very difficult to maintain. If I allow one question, there shall be deluge of questions and answering all these questions shall be one major trouble, which would take the focus away from teaching. I was a principal and my duty was to maintain educational sanity. I did what you too would have done, had you been in my position.”

The idea behind the story is what we have talked earlier. How the world works is one reality. It has its own rules and own hypocrisies. They are there as objective and neutral systems. One may find himself or herself on the wrong side of the prevailing system. Others still are benefitting from the same system. What you as an adolescent can do is accept them as necessary burdens. You can well stick with your natural and innocent inquisitiveness. You shall have the time and chance to change the world, when you shall be in the position, when you create or preside the system.

However, what as a teenager you must have as a cushion is your family, especially parents. The societal system or cultural benchmarks are all aimed at objectivity and neutrality. They cannot bend even a little for you. Like the student in above story, the society system shall not allow you even a small concession, from its fixed standpoint as it is designed for groups and collectivity. It is the family, which is a place where you have lots of personalized and individualistic space. It is important for you to have a good and meaningful communication with your parents and family members. They shall be supportive in allowing your natural inquisitiveness to have better working space.

However, you have to accept the world as it works. You should always believe in your inquisitiveness and remain confident with the innocence of your questions. Righteousness is often a societal and cultural idea. They work as per their own logic, which you shall understand when you grow up. You can change them when you get the chance to preside over the same system. For now, be comfortable and confident about your questions and inquisitiveness. And the most important is to maintain your cool. Never ever get irritated and aggressive in your action-behavior. Always remember, those who have truth in their side, never ever get angry and aggressive. They just smile.

If you maintain calm, cool and composed disposition, you shall realize that you shall emerge as winner in the end. As you shall grow and later enter college and even in career; you shall see that many of your natural and innocent questions shall meet with an untimely demise. This should only make you confident and sure of the righteousness and justification of your natural inquisitiveness. The nervousness or aggression, which you would see your questions generate among those who are responsible for answers, shall assure you that righteousness is on your side.

If righteousness is in your side, you should feel calm and composed, smiling. Why would questions scare anyone, if the answers are truthful? The force, with which the authoritative layers shall attempt to smother your natural questions, shall only reflect the reality that there is something that they fear the questions would expose – either their incompetence or ignorance to answer them or the larger hypocrisy of humanity.

If you are calm, cool and composed with your natural and innocent inquisitiveness, you shall grow up to the realism that asking question is a greater virtue than giving answers. Keeping a question alive, not allowing it to die prematurely requires a lot of courage, character and conviction.

Almost everyone claims to have the answers; some of them probably have. Most of them even fight for their answers to be the only justified one. Many have the authority to impose answers or the refusal of it on people. Only few however have questions and the courage to stand by them. You shall realize, if necessity was the mother of inventions, questions were the primary energy behind all inventions, all creations.

Just calmly and coolly, refuse the socially popular notion that a question is a sign of weakness as it exposes the ignorance of the questioner. You shall realize, a question is a sure sign of innocence and courage. It requires childlike innocence and courage of highest order to rise above the fear of being labeled an ignorant, to face the taunts of peer group and society to keep faith with your inquisitiveness. History is replete with instances where courage of question of a few men and women led to revolutions.

Natural and innocent questioners have always faced the ire of the majority who feared answers. Always be on the side of your natural questions. And as you do it, do it with a smile. This smile also comes natural to you, as you stay calm, cool and composed, never ever giving in to your irritability and aggression. Always accept, if something has truth in its side, it shall always be non-aggressive. This is simple realism of life.

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The Genesis Of Trouble

We now focus our talks on the issues of sanity and sense in life, especially about sex and drugs. We have talked about how the adult world is very concerned about how teenagers handle the issue of sex and how it is emerging as number one trouble for teens, in terms of so many troubles for them and society alike. The issue of alcoholism and drugs use is closely related with sexual troubles as it has been established former aggravates the later issue.

The troubles for youth are unraveled in layers. The problems are multidimensional and multi-layered. The issues at hand are –

1. How teenagers can be convinced not to involve themselves in any sexual activity, till they reach an age of rationality and responsibility.

2. How to make the teenagers realize and accept that sex is essentially an exclusive domain of bonded pair of man and woman committed in marriage.

3. How to make teenagers realize that teenage is not the right time for sex activities as it has negative and degenerative impact on overall physical and mental health, as well as on balanced personality development.

4. How to convince teenagers that if they opt for sex, they need to take all possible measures to make the activity sanitized and safe.

5. How to impress upon the teenagers the fact that alcoholism-drugs and sexual adventurism are hugely negative impact on the very survival of human society and civilization as it is degenerating the utility and purpose of sanitized family and community living.

All these issues about teenage sexuality are simple ideas and not something as difficult like rocket science, which youth cannot understand. There have been major efforts to make the teenagers believe and accept all the above issues for their own benefit but with not much success.

The simple question is – a youth, who can understand the very tough and complicated mathematics, complex science and major social science philosophies, simply fails to understand a simple truth about sexual problems and sanity. Why?

The same youngster, who is smart and competent enough to understand the entire mechanisms of complicated technologies and runs them on their mobile phones and computers like a wizard, fails to comprehend this simple truths about sexuality. Why?

The bitter truth is – if there is a will to understand and accept something, there is always an easy way. Inversely, if there is no willingness and rather doubts about the utility of a proposition, there can never be any way to understand and accept them.

You as a youngster have a mind mechanism, which is so brilliant and powerful that it can assimilate a learning even when you are in worst of circumstances. The only trouble is, you cannot retain a learning, if it is assigned to your brain with uncertain and doubtful emotion. Moreover, if the same learning is not repeated to the mind from all corners in the ambient environment, the brain shall not retain it.

You are young and you have the genius to understand this simple mechanism of our brain. You shall then understand how your mind accepts and retains something and how and why it does not. You shall also understand how a learning comes to your use and help, when you are making decisions about the utility and worth of a thing or an idea.

When you know this mechanism of brain, you shall understand why all the above simple truths about sex and sexuality action-behavior, which the whole world is telling you, are not being put to ready and lasting practices. This is true with all, which you learn. This shall empower you, making you far more decisive in picking up the right facts of life and benefit from them.

Your brain has evolved over millions of years to enable you function well in the environment you survive and excel. It has its own mechanism. It receives trillions of signals through sensory organs like eyes, ears, nose, skin, etc. Not all information the brain receives can store in its conscious layers. It relegates most of the information to subconscious layers. Only those information are looped back to conscious mind for your daily life decisions, which are assigned to it with clarity of purpose and utility.

The things you learn are not the only information, which goes to the brain for processing and storing in its memory. Most information goes to the brains through eyes and ears. You are not even aware of them. When you learn something, you may or may not retain it. It depends entirely on your assigning it a value and purpose. This value-assignment is done by your emotions. Only those information are available for later use and utility by the conscious mind, which you accept with intense emotions and with an emotion of it being very important and useful to you.

For example, you love you mom very much. She is someone you value, trust and place high on your emotional ladder. Even if she says something casually, you automatically assign it great value and utility. Her words are sent as information to your brain, with loads of high emotional backup and your brain accepts its larger utility for you. Days go by but still, her words shall automatically loop back to your conscious mind, while you do anything or take a decision. This learning shall get strengthened in time as you keep recalling it.

However, you do not like your neighbor. So, even if your neighbor says something important to you, you shall receive it with skepticism. Your brain shall assign this information as ‘less valuable’ and relegate it deep down in your subconscious mind, as you did not assign it emotional backup. The words of your neighbor are not something you value, therefore, you may not recall it later. Your brain is an auto performer. It shall prune this bit of information, which your neighbor loaded in your brain as brain automatically trims those information, which are not in use. Very soon, you shall forget what your neighbor had said.

Take another example. You learn to ride a bicycle. You shall always be in a look out to have the bicycle in your hand so that you could master the ride and related skill. Even if you fall down sometimes, you keep your romance with bicycle riding. Why this happens? The simple reason is, when you first learnt cycling, it gave you huge joy of sense of accomplishment. Your pride got a huge boost. In mental terms, you assigned high value and emotion to the utility of bicycle ride. It is only natural that your brain prompted you to have more of it. As you had more of it, you mastered the artistry and skills of cycling.

However, when your schoolteacher makes you learn a topic for the first time, you may not like it. Unconsciously, you assigned low utility and emotional value to the idea of learning. Your mind accepts your value-assignment and does not prompt you to repeat the school lessons at home. As it is not repeated, you do not acquire mastery over it and gradually, it fades out of your memory.

Remember, the boy or girl, who does remarkably well in your class, is one who primarily accepts a school lesson as a joy and thrill. When school learning are thrill, and give you the same sense of accomplishment and pride, which the cycle ride gave you, you become the best student of your class as your subconscious mind leads you to master the learning.

Your brain can do even worst. If your brain gets the repeated information that you are gradually disliking your neighbor and class learning more, it shall devise a better plan for itself. Later, it shall happen to you that your neighbor or teacher shall say something yelling at you still, you shall not even receive what they said. Your brain almost shuts down your receptive doors.

This is a very common complaint about you as youth. People complain that young ones even do not listen to things, which adults have to say about their own wellness. It happens truly as over the years, your brain can make it shut down to voices, which it has recognized as ‘useless’ and ‘antagonistic’ to its wider utility. You need to understand and accept that.

This mechanism of brain has evolved this way to suit your survival and wellness needs. Your conscious mind is very small. It cannot store so many information, it receives almost every second of your life. The larger storage facility is your subconscious mind. Both are connected and information passage is both ways. Experts say, if your conscious mind is a foot long, your subconscious mind is the size of a football ground.

We talked about all this to make you understand, why you do not accept the utility of so many things, which the elders and larger society wants you to accept and put into effective practice. The ideas about appropriate and righteous sexual action-behavior benchmarks, which your family and society want you to understand, accept and practice, prove ineffective to you as all these ideas are not being assigned emotional weight of utility and purpose by you. You listen to them but either, the ideas do not reach your mind or, you just let them in without any emotional assignment of high value and utility.

Moreover, as these ideas get relegated to the deeper layers of your subconscious, they are not recalled, when you make your decisions and choices about sexual action-behavior or alcoholi-drugs. As these ideas are seldom put to use and practice, your subconscious mind prunes it and removes from memory. This leads you to get into the same sexual and substance abuse troubles, against which the world warns you.

Now, you also need to understand, why you do not assign emotional weight of value and utility to the ideas of sanity and purpose. Why is it that despite repeated learning offered to you about appropriate sexual action-behavior, these ideas and learning fail to get emotional weight assignment by you?

Believe me, this is very simple to understand. This problem of yours is not something exclusive to you. Everyone faces the same trouble, as mind mechanism is common to all of us. Even when you shall grow up, the trouble shall remain the same. That is probably why, you also see the elders doing the same mistake and create the same troubles, for which you as a teenager are being blamed. Let us talk about it.

At the outset, you need to accept that we humans have a mechanism. Our brain handles this mechanism for us and we all are largely what our mechanism is. Of course, we are not machines, we are more than our mechanisms but, we have a mechanism, which handles majority of our action-behavior. When we understand this mechanism, we create a conscious personality, which can rise above and beyond this restrictive mechanism. All learning and wisdom of humanity, like the sexual sanity ideas, are aimed at creating a person and personality in you, which is empowered and endowed to become the ‘master of mechanism’. If we do not do it, we shall remain the ‘puppets of mechanism’, a proposition akin to being an animal. Animals live their lives as per their wired instincts. To be human is to be more than our instincts. Human intelligence is in being the ‘masters of the instincts’ and not just the ‘puppets of instincts’ as the animals are.

In all wisdom, be it science, philosophy or religion; it has been established that a person is mostly in state of flux. The mind operates as per its mechanism and usually, people are not even aware what subconsciously goes into their minds. In our daily lives, we unconsciously assign information and emotional weight to so many inputs, which go into our brain. Usually, what we see and what we hear happening around us, decides our subconscious mind. Ambient culture therefore is the most decisive input for our subconscious mind for emotional assignment of value and utility.

Popular and prevailing culture of a society is the most powerful media. What prevails in the culture and what trends in the culture, automatically becomes the strongest basis of our subconscious mind’s decisions about our own needs and righteousness. The subconscious mind is designed for ‘aping’. It is the most primitive instinct, which remains the most potent one. We all evolve through this aping instinct. From childhood, a person’s growth comes through aping. It is only very natural that the subconscious mind accepts aping as big virtue and we all have this innate tendency to ape, which is popular and prevalent trend in the culture we live.

In the prevailing and popular culture of most developed societies, especially in western world, sexuality and sexual adventurism is a popular and prevalent trend. Even the adult world is hugely concerned about too much and too over the board sexuality in almost everything around. The language people speak, the appearances people choose, the fashion and lifestyle people follow and the way people express their feelings and ideas in private and public spaces of life; everything has crass overdose and indulgence of overt sexuality. The same is about alcohol-drugs.

In such a culture, where sexuality is what defines the subconscious layer of collective conscience, if someone preaches you about sexual sanity and reticence, an average teenage mind cannot help but accept them as some marvelous joke! A young mind is inquisitive and it has still not loaded his or her mind with huge biases. The youth can never ever accept something as important as learning, if it is perceptibly packaged as hyped hypocrisy. The hypocrisy in sexual learning of sanity and symmetry for teenagers cannot be assigned value and emotional utility by teens as their subconscious mind has already assigned the opposite of it as the preferred value and utility. This subconscious mind positioning of teens is truly in sync with popular cultural benchmarks and trends. Teens cannot be exclusively blamed for their inappropriate sexual action-behavior. The same is about alcohol-drugs.

This however, does not mean, you as a youth should blindly follow, what is a stupid cultural trend. In all ages, in all societies and culture, hypocrisy has remained in full view of young impressionable minds. Still, in the past and also in the present, young ones have risen up and evolved successfully to become greats in all walks of life. This is the true genius of a youth like you. You have the mechanism to rise above all hypocrisies and conflicts of cultures and attain the lofty and higher purposes and utilities of life. We shall talk about that later.

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Understand The Drives Of Humanity

I am talking with you about the mechanisms we all have and why we behave and act the way we do. The purpose is for you to understand well the genesis and genetics of your action and behavior. This has two purposes – first, you shall know why people say, youth are ‘troubled’ in their action-behavior. You shall diagnose the cause of trouble and secondly, you shall have better control over your conscious and subconscious action-behavior. This shall enable you to understand the righteousness and utility of an act-behavior as well as the larger benefits of the ‘appropriate’ benchmarks of action-behavior, which society expects from you.

We shall talk now about why you see so much overt sexuality in culture, even when everyone simultaneously talks about the need to downplay it and have larger sanity into it. We are talking about the personal mechanisms, which our body-mind consciousness has as well as the mechanisms of the culture, you see all around you as a powerful media.

All living organisms, including humans have two most powerful natural drives. Drives are essentially the natural and born instincts, which are wired in our genetic makeup. This means, drives are our first skin, our first priority, which our very mechanism of existence has ingrained in our makeup, well before we are born. Culture comes later. These drives are so powerful that they dominate our subconscious action-behavior to the extent that even the very aware and potent conscious mind is also at times unable to override it.

These two drives are – food and sex; both are natural expressions of organism’s primary need of survival. It has now been established that of the two drives, we all are born with, sex is more powerful, to the extent that in almost all living organisms, including humans, an individual can often risk its life for the fulfillment of the desires, emanating from sex drive. Just understand it, how powerful this sex drive is that organisms, including humans can place it above survival, which is the most powerful instinct in all of us.

There is nothing wrong with it and there is no need for being uncomfortable or stressed about it. We have been designed this way. It is very natural. In the long process of evolution, these drives have evolved and become encoded in our genetic makeup. These drives are there to ensure our wellness and progress as an advanced species. We just need to understand them. The evolution, the experts say is a ‘stupid engineering’. It designs something not for overall excellence, but for basic survival needs. It is completely on the higher prudence of humanity to understand these drives and evolve a culture, where these drives put us in larger excellence and not bare survival.

You as a youth are the genius of the universe and you can understand it all. You can see yourself that how the drive of food has landed humanity in all sorts of health troubles. The drives are natural but even these drives have to be in perfect synergies, symmetry and sanity with our internal body-mind mechanisms as well as the external environment. Culture is one big external environment.

The drives were there for our survival. However, we are well past the evolutionary stage of survival needs. We have plenty of food for all of us and we are no more threatened by food scarcity. The time for us is now for excellence, not survival.

The food drive is now humanity’s number one trouble, which was once a core instinct ensuring survival. Humanity is now on the overdrive of both the drives. If you see around us, you shall easily witness everything around you engaged in nothing but consumption. Globally, most people are landing themselves with lifestyle diseases, which are direct outcome of over consumption. More people are dying of overeating than starvation. The scenario of worldwide trouble for humanity can be ascribed to over-indulgence of their two drives of food and sexuality. The instant-self-gratification culture is against survival and excellence.

You also have to understand that the two core drives of food and sex manifest itself in multidimensional ways; especially sex. Almost everything humans do, the eventual goal is almost always a manifestation of the instinctive sex drive. However, these drives are culturally expressed in a manner, which ensures sanity and symmetry in the society. Human culture was evolved to give aesthetic value to these raw drives of humanity. Culture is all about an order and system, which brings about prudence, proportion and poise to natural human drives.

However, human raw drives of sexuality have always remained in major conflict with cultures of all time. The modern culture has allowed liberalism to such limits, where all inhibitions, prudence, proportions and poise on sex drives of people have been removed. We now face the troubles of this unbridled culture.

However, as a youth, you need to understand that just as you are in a transition phase of growth towards a mature adult, this culture around you is also in the same transition. This culture of sexual misadventure is a passing phase of humanity. In the long history of humanity on this planet, there have been phases of culture, where some destructive practices ruled for some time but all of them phased out in time. Human intelligence can drift in indecisive imprudence for some time but finally, it has the genius to restore sanity.

The world you are seeing has not been as good and peaceful as it is now. A century back, we had a global culture, where men fought wars and the culture of imperialism and slavery ruled the world. The world fought two devastating wars and it almost emaciated the humanity of all goodness. However, the prudence and sanity of humanity prevailed and in the last 60 years, we have grown marvelously on the cherished path of global peace, coexistence, democracy and liberal culture. In social and cultural practices too, the world has become a far better place to live in the last six decades.

This culture of sexual misadventure and bizarreness as well as instant-self-gratification madness shall pass too. Already, what this calamitous culture has brought to western developed societies has made everyone aware of the need to have a system of sanity and symmetry. What you are being told by elders to keep away with is a conscious and determined effort by larger society to have a new generation of people, who create a new culture, which has larger prudence, proportions and poise on not only sex drives but also in all drives of humanity.

As you are the pioneering generation of this change, you shall have the most trouble in initiating this change. You shall see this hypocrisy, which is still around. The prevalent culture shall not go away overnight. It takes time. Imperialism and slavery also did not go away in years. It took decades. The change is a slow process and it begins with fresh minds of teenaged and young people. Those who have grown up, cannot lead the change as it is now probably too late for them. The flag is in the hands of teenagers like you. You shall take the revolution to create a culture for future, where both food and sex drives are poised and proportioned.

The challenge in the meantime is to understand the dualism. You are the protagonist of the change, which this global society has decided to bring about in their culture. However, the change is not something, which shall come in a day or year. It shall take years. In the meantime, many shall continue to be in the same old culture of sensual mis-adventurism. You shall definitely feel the hypocrisy in the call for sexual sanity, which you are expected to lead from the front. You have to understand and accept with pride and confidence that you are the future. The world shall be in your hands in a decade, where you shall design and devise the way your new culture shall express itself. The future is yours and that is why, you are being asked to lead the change. You shall do it yourself, to create a culture, which shall be ideal, when your kids shall be born and you shall handover the baton of leadership to them.

You, my young friend, as the leader of the change should understand, cultures become a neutral media of expression of popular choices and practices. The simple idea to understand is how markets work and how markets decide the broad culture. The economics of culture is value-neutral. If there is a demand, supply shall automatically crop up in an open economy we have. The market mechanism works on this simple prudence. People were demanding sexuality and consumptive pleasures and markets flooded things for them. As this happens, initially, there shall be periods, when demand shall be high and supply shall fall short in catching up the demand. However, as time shall pass more people shall become sellers and eventually, supply shall be more than demand. In such a situation, there shall be huge competition among suppliers to sell their product. This shall create a scenario, where sellers shall resort to using all available media in a hyped manner to sell their products. What you see around you is the second scenario, where media of all types are being used by the suppliers to sell their products as there are more people selling, than there are people willing to buy.

It is only natural that markets shall resort to all possible means to sell their products. The easy means is to sell it by manipulating the sexual drives of buyers. Therefore, everywhere in the markets and media, you shall see sexuality on overdrives. Even a small candy shall be wrapped up in overt sexuality branding to make it sell because, sex sells faster and harder. This then becomes a staple of the contemporary culture. The overdose of overt sexuality in modern culture is the simple interplay of markets and basic economics.

You, my young friend, are the genius of the universe and now you are the protagonist of the change, which the world wants your generation to bring about in future. You have to understand the mechanisms of culture, the markets and human drives to bring about a sanity, synergy and symmetry in the society and culture. You are the hope and the baton of change is in your hand. You have to rise above the hypocrisy and lead the change by accepting the prudence, proportion and poise of all things around you so that you lead the march of sanity, symmetry and synergies to the future, when this world shall be in your hand and you shall proudly say – ‘Look, we have done it’!

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Mechanism Of Sexuality

We have talked earlier that when you understand the mechanism well, you become the masters of mechanism, rather than being puppets of mechanism. We therefore now talk about the mechanism of human sexuality, so that you have ease in understanding, what is the appropriate sexual action-behavior, for which we have been designed and evolved as.

At the very outset, it has to be accepted that human sexuality is unique and it has almost no parallel in animal world. The human sexuality is a product of long evolution and as it stands now, this special brand of sexuality was evolved to suit human survival needs.

In the animal world, you must have noticed, the sexuality is restricted to a particular period in a year and the sexual behaviors of all members of a species have absolute commonality. Most animal societies are matriarchic where male members do not live in bonded pair, like humans. The males are accepted in the group for a short period of mating and then they move away. Males have no or very little responsibility towards the new born. Only mother and other female members are responsible for offspring.

Human evolution however, required a different mating strategy as the physiological requirements necessitated it. The human child has a longer gestation period in mother’s womb. It needs longer support from mother as unlike many animals, human child does not stand on its feet and starts running after few hours of birth.

As we have talked earlier, evolution is a stupid engineering; it facilitates something, which is essential for survival only. It does not create anything for long-term excellence. Humans therefore evolved in such a way that both male and females developed different sets of physiological and mental features. As the human child needed care for longer period of time, it was ideal that human females remained in a bonded relationship with male and shared their roles and duties to raise the child successfully.

The human male took care of external works of bringing food and providing security. He grew stronger muscles and lean physique. Females on the other hand remained confined to home as they were either carrying a baby in their arms or were pregnant. The human female is the most vulnerable when pregnant as she cannot run fast and fight a predator. She needed lasting security from male partner.

Evolution as a stupid engineer evolves such traits and features, which suits a particular and current need. It does not design anything for overall and lasting excellence. Therefore, humans evolved a sexual mechanism, which suited the current need of survival to their offspring. This required male and female to remain in a bonded and committed pair status for long.

In consonance with the unique requirements of human child, human sexuality evolved a range of sexual traits and features, which resulted in male-female sexual bonding for life. There are details of all these sexual evolution and mating mechanism, which shall tell you how these traits and features led to this current state of overdrive of sexuality, which is unique only for humans. I am not telling them to you and you shall know of them when you grow up, as it may not be ‘appropriate’ to tell you all this now.

I brought up this topic just to make you understand the fact that humans too could have similar restricted and seasonal sexuality like most animals. However, evolution designed our sexuality in a lasting bonded pair of male-female for the survival of the child. This need is still there. Nothing has changed in human child’s mechanism, as human child now needs larger and better care of both father and mother. It is therefore more important that sexuality is preserved in the same format of bonded, committed and affectionate man-woman pairing for life.

The simple idea is; what is right and what is wrong is usually a cultural definition, which can change with time as cultural needs change. However, there are always and shall always remain a definition of ‘appropriate’ and ‘inappropriate’, in terms of basic and natural needs of humanity for its survival and constant evolution. If we do something, which enhances human survival and evolution, then it is ‘appropriate’ and this is some right thing, which culture of all time should hold as sanity and righteousness.

The contemporary culture of sexual adventurism and bizarreness as well as instant-gratifications is ‘inappropriate’ as it is degenerating the very survival and evolution of human race. The bonded pair and commitment of prolonged care by both father and mother for child till he or she grows to be on its own is majorly being compromised because of this sexual adventurism. Half the marriages in developed societies are ending in divorce, resulting in single parent care for child, which mentally, emotionally and physically compromises a child’s growth.

In simple terms, the idea is to make you understand that sex exclusively in marriage and sex as brilliantly beautiful endowment of marital bonding is something, which is a basic requirement of human survival and excellence. Keeping away from alcohol-drugs is essential for sanity of family, which is the basic unit for human survival. If this basic and cardinal rule is being flouted, we all can see, how humanity suffers. That is why, globally, rational people are advocating to bring back the sanity and symmetry in all drives and instincts in society.

You as a youth have the baton of this change in your hands. You need to lead this change to bring back the much desired sanity and reason in human culture. When you understand the utility and purpose of the express need of something being advocated for you, you shall have the ease and willingness in accepting them. Then only you can lead the change.

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Aesthetics Of Life-Living Purpose

As you have just entered the world and gear up to land in a space marked for adults, in a few years from now, one thing you must understand is the definition of true intelligence. Everyone shall expect you to be intelligent and do all right things. However, you may feel confused as what is this ‘intelligence’ and what is ‘right’ thing in life.

As we have talked earlier, there shall always be a cultural definition of all things and then, there is the definition, which you shall subjectively feel as the right one. However, there is one truth and righteousness, which is objective, neutral and singular. You may accept it or may not but, as we talked earlier, there can be rights and wrongs, on the basis of cultural definition as well as personal definition. However, there is an ‘appropriate’ thing and an ‘inappropriate’ thing, defined on the basis of its utility or futility in enhancing the survival and excellence of humanity as a race.

We talk here not the right and wrong, but about appropriate and inappropriate. This we decide on the basis of our mechanism, the mechanism of the environment around us and the relationship between the two.

It has been said, ‘what man seeks is what he wants, and is not at all what he needs’. Humans are competitive animal; evolution designed humans this way. He or she needs to win, always, as it his or her survival instinct. This desire to win is beautifully expressed by his or her ego. Often, the survival needs and ‘desires’ lead him or her to seek and compete to win.

However, what he or she wants/seeks is not always, what he or she needs. Most people admit, the fine line, which separates what one ‘wants’ from what one ‘needs’ is tough to ascertain. This is tough but crucial as this fine line separates ‘appropriate’ from ‘inappropriate’.

What an individual seeks is ‘Empowerment’. What society needs from him or her is collective ‘Utility’. Individual is guided by his or her survival instincts and drives and they make him seek personal empowerment at all cost. However, human is a social animal and he or she can survive and excel only in group and society.

Therefore, there has to be a balance, a poise, prudence and proportion between an individual’s desires of personal empowerment and his or her need for accommodation in society. A good culture has structures and functions, which ensures this poise. The culture, which cannot ensure this poise is an ‘inappropriate culture’, the one we have now.

Therefore, what a man or woman wants, if it is in conformity and synchrony with what society needs, then what he or she wants is what he needs. The poise and proportion is then ensured. This in other term means, individual empowerment must always create collective utility.

One simple but essential idea is – as an individual is constantly advised to recheck his or her ‘wants’, society also must always be liberal and resilient enough to allow a self-recheck on what it ‘needs’. This means, both individual empowerment and societal utility need to be evolving in tune with time and circumstances. This ensures poise for all. Otherwise, psychosis rules both individuals as well as societies.

The trouble with our contemporary society is that not only individuals but society as a collectivity itself has surrendered to populism and the ruling machinery also somehow extends support to the culture of populism. The populism is a culture, where people are guided and lead their lives more on the basis of their natural and unhindered instincts and drives. It is a culture where people indulge in what they want and never think of what they actually need.

This culture has its own trouble. When we give in to the populism, the instinctive demands of body, without thinking of the ‘appropriates’ of survival and excellence in the long-run, we land ourselves in untold miseries. The contemporary culture is therefore in the storm of troubles.

Let us understand it with daily life example. The food we eat is felt until it stays up to the throat. After that the body mechanism, which continues to work upon the food, is not felt. The mind has 100 billion neurons and billions of other supportive neurons are working incessantly in the process of food movement from mouth to digestive system. However, we can feel and understand only a fraction of this operative mechanism.

This is our design. However, the real intelligent is a person, who does not divert his or her attention and focus from the food, even when it is past the ‘felt-zone’ of throat. We all need to be aware of and receptive towards the journey of this vital food down the tracts till its last processing. Populism is also like a short-term gratification desire, without the responsibility of watching for its impact in the long-term.

Doctors have been warning us. They say, “Own the onus of the food your mouth shoves to the body, as you are not just your tongue, but the entire body”. The idea is to convey the fact that usually, in our restrictive consciousness, we eat in loads what our mouth, especially tongue likes. It is true that the taste buds are restricted to tongue only and as the food goes down beyond it, we do not wish to remember and care about. It is simply because there is no pleasure of gratification of food beyond our mouth.

However, we are not only our mouth. Our body is an intricate and huge mechanism. There are long food canal, liver, pancreas, kidneys, heart et al and together there are millions of functions that go on within our body, which we do not consciously register. However, they are crucial for our survival and general well-being. The mouth is our conscious mind but rest of the millions of complex functions are handled by our unconscious mind.

A true intelligent person, cannot restrict its responsibility and attention to just the miniscule conscious part. The unconscious is also our onus as it is the larger domain, which essentially handles our basic health and survival. The real intelligent shall always know and respect the ‘details’ of the entirety of the ‘body-mechanism’ and shall own the responsibility of the wellness and success of all parts, not only one part.

It is clear that what we want is only a small part. Like it is just a small part to shove into our mouth what our taste buds want. However, what we actually need is a long process and responsibility. It is a collective decision of all other organs of our body, like liver, kidney, heart intestines, et al. Populism is about caring only for the instant gratification of mouth. It is about wanting only what our instincts and drives want from us. Intelligence is in being responsible towards the wellness of all body organs in the long-term. If we indulge in populism, in the long-term, we degenerate our body-mind health and threaten our own survival. As we have talked earlier, culturally or personally, this may be right but from the point of view of survival and excellence of humanity as a race, it is ‘inappropriate’.

The conscious-mind in we all, which is restrictively concerned and knowledgeable about only a ‘part’ of the entire complex mechanism around us, can be ‘culturally and personally successful’. However, the true intelligent is a person, who shall definitively be aware and responsible towards the ‘whole’. The holistic, assimilative and integrative perspective towards the ‘mechanism, it its entirety is the hallmark of a true intelligent. This person shall not fall prey to populism and its associated calamities.

We cannot blame ourselves. It is our mechanism! The conscious part, the mouth, gives us tangibles as instant utility and fruition. The mind consciousness is bound to register the immediate advantage of ‘taste-satisfaction’ and extends instant thumbs-up. We eat a huge and rich creamy cake and feel so happy. The tongue gives us a huge thumbs-up as it registers big bonus on gratification-scale.

However, the burst of calamitous sugar, which goes inside the food tract and gets big disapproval and thumbs down from liver and pancreas are not registered on the satisfaction-scale. These organs are rather neutral. The mouth is a vocal and populist showman. The liver however is the silent worker.

The ‘true intelligent’ shall never have this tendency of giving in to populism. Rather, this intelligent person shall always have the poise and perspective to see the picture in entirety as this person understands and is responsible towards the ‘mechanism’ not in ‘parts’, but in holism and assimilation.

The ‘intelligent’ shall never be swayed away or blown out by populism, as it has the holistic perspective to understand that ‘success’ is not in pampering the mouth with all it ‘wants’, it is rather in ensuring the larger health and wellness ‘need’ of the whole body. The ‘intelligent’ understands, “Success is not in having all that we want for instant joys; it is rather in the prudence of having what we actually need for persevered satisfaction”.

You, my young friend, are the genius of the universe and it is expected of you to be intelligent. You should yourself decide, what intelligence you wish to accept. You just have to accept that mind is more or less like a computer, may be a bit more than that. It can provide only those answers and perform only those tasks, which it would be programmed for. Like a computer, it is restricted to process only those data, which has been fed into it. Brain is just a referral mechanism for processing facts; what one may call a value summation (deciding right and wrong for motor action).

All its decisions, based on instinctive value summation, are therefore subjective and never entirely objective. A human mind decides on an individual’s goodness and righteousness mostly on the basis of the values that it has been programmed (neural circuitry) with. This programming is his or her instincts in almost 95% of his or her value summation and decisions as well as the culture he or she has received. You also have your mind programmed as per the definitions of right and wrong, which your contemporary culture has generated for you.

So, what we need to do is to change or at least divert this programming of your conditioned mind. You need to consciously and continuously tell your mind that look, we are in the midst of a huge change and we are introducing some new programming and that is going to be the new and additional matrix, equally important, if not superior than the popular one, for a new and objective value summation and decision-making.

Reiterate this resolve to your mind repeatedly as it is only through conscious repetition that mind accepts external inputs and then forms it as part of its instinctive value summation programming, or what people popularly refer as ‘soul voice’ or ‘higher conscious’.

For example, Dalai Lama said, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. Reception of pain in mind is a sensor mechanism; one cannot stop that at entry point. But, mind also has ‘processing’ neurons which is what we call ‘higher conscious’. This processing neuron can be trained not to react to the pains in usual emotions, rather accept it as an emotion of larger ‘wellness’, thus creating a ‘feeling’ that results in less suffering. Science admits, effective meditation can curb the sufferings upto 70%. Buddhist monks do it 99%. This is mind training through persevered practice, no miracle.

From the functioning of our minds, we now know that it is instinctive in human neural system to accept training and compete to become better. Therefore, intelligence is in conditioning our instincts and drives through self-control, self-discipline and objectively training it to accept only those values as referral for instinctive value-summation, which are ‘appropriate’ for larger wellness of self and society. We now have a scientific value matrix, which also must be known, understood and accepted for mind-evolution of a uniform global culture.

The human mind has instinctive mechanism to universalize goodness as well as evil. What we feed in it is not its concern. This is the role of intellect. The universe has not put us where we are today with any specific purpose of designed goodness. We have to design our purpose. We cannot accept survival as our purpose anymore. We as superior human race have to design and devise higher and lofty purposes for our excellence. Instant-self-gratification, the contemporary global culture, is also not our purpose. You as the ultimate genius of universe, as intellectual beings, need to set lofty and larger goals for yourself and then program your minds to attain it.

As you repeat this objective mind training to your brain, the ‘appropriate’ goodness would spread all throughout its neural circuitry and then, you won’t have to think twice to perform an ‘appropriate’ goodness as it would then become an instinct, and thus an involuntary mechanism, like a hand moving away involuntarily as it touches fire.

You, my dear young friend, need to know, a real intelligent human is not one who needs to think and then behave and act good and ‘appropriate’. Rather, it is one who does not have to think as all his behavior and actions are instinctively bound to be good and ‘appropriate’. You don’t consciously remember when you ride a cycle or cook a meal as it is instinctive, even when they were once learned behavior. Objective goodness is also learned behavior but when you repeatedly practice it, it becomes instinctive.

Mind is value neutral. We all are born with a value-neutral mind with instinctive mechanism for survival. It is like a new computer, which comes with a factory-loaded Operating System (OS), but you have to load all those software, which you want for your specific needs. Mind spreads values that it is assigned by an individual (chosen software) or a culture to every part of its neural circuitry. This is why and how the minds of innocent people are conditioned to become terrorists, even suicide bombers.

That is why; my dear friend, you have to use your objective intellect to input only objective and ‘appropriate’ value benchmarks that has singularity of value-decision and weed out populist values which allows cunning and devilish inventiveness of mind’s value summation. Majority of people are led by herd-mentality. You are the new entrant into this world and you do not yet have a fully conditioned mind. You have the future in your hand; therefore, you must take up the responsibilities assigned to you, which shall lead you and the world to a future of sanity and poise. All best.

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Accept My Gratitude

Writing something is a daunting task as there is always a lurking apprehension of it not being of utility for some readers. I however feel at ease, because of my faith in magnanimity of readers. I am happily sure; you shall forgive if my efforts could not be up to your expectations. Thank you so much for being with me and allowing me to share with you. Wish you an empowered life; with the prosperity of the consciousness.

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About The Author

People say, what conspire to make you what you finally become are always behind the veil of intangibility. Someone called it ‘Intangible-Affectors’. Inquisitiveness was the soil, I was born with and the seeds, these intangible-affectors planted in me made me somewhat analytical. My long stint in media, in different capacities as journalist, as brand professional and strategic planning, conspired too! However, I must say it with all innocence at my behest that the chief conspirators of my making have been the loads of beautiful and multi-dimensional people, who traversed along me, in my life journey so far. The mutuality and innocence of love and compassion always prevailed and magically worked as the catalyst in my learning and most importantly, unlearning from these people. Unconsciously, these amazing people also worked out to be the live theatres of my experiments with my life’s scripts. I, sharing with you all what I have here, is essentially my very modest way to express my gratitude for all of them and you, who affectionately shared my consciousness here. In my stupidities is my innocence of love for all my beautifully worthy conspirators!

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